kadjo

My favorite priest was telling in his sermon for quite some time that according to St. Thomas that :  "The moment that you were born, you already start dying." Indeed. you'll never know the exact time you'll be departing. I have a good chat with my friend who used to be my schoolmate back in Koronadal Central Elementary School. A bit gay but a lovely guy and very fun to talk with. I am seeing him in lots of activities on my batch and was very active. Last week I was surprise to see his face with lots of saying "May he rest in peace." What a sad day. I pray for the repose of his soul that moment. 

The last time I spoke to him was i brought him the spare battery of my mothers hearing aid. The problem is after he used it his hearing aid was no longer working. Maybe due to incompability. Its sad because I thought it might help him. 

Well for now wherever his soul might be is I hope he wont suffer a problem of hearing. Life should be good there or life in afterlife  

May he rest in peace. May the souls of all faithful departed rest in peace. 

See you on next post.  

kadjo

Time is running out. I know and aware of it. 

I have hesitations but this year should be a good to start my plan. Today is my 49th year here on earth. I have created my channel in Youtube and prepared my characters as that channel will have a content that will be a documentary. I have research already my topic and prepared a script for it but then I am hesitating to continue. 

I think I have to work on it now. I'm working on Blender as my animation studio for my character that will narrate the story. I should be posting this sooner.  

In my home office, on the corkboard, I put something - "Monitize [Name of the Channel] this year 2024!" 

I will work on it and promise to!

"Thanks for all that has been and all that we should be" - as said by Dags Jammarskold, the late UN Secretary General. 

I am grateful for all the blessings in my life, my wife, my 2 kids, my parents specially my late father. I've been praying for his eternal repose.  I'm praying also for my siblings family and their kids.  Thanks for being with me in my lifes journey. 

Lets be prosperous and again my promise - work my plan- now!  

See you soon. 

kadjo

I came along with this quote sometime. I think it was a preacher a popular one who says this and he talks about understanding the people behind who hurt you. I often see this as just an excuse of perpetuating the abusive cycle of hurting others, which I dont want to condone. Hurting others is a big NO NO but lets break down first how hurting can be a cycle.

1)  People who have gone through challenging, hurtful, or traumatic experiences in their lives, especially during their formative years, may develop emotional wounds or scars. These experiences can include abuse, neglect, abandonment, loss, or any other situation that has caused significant emotional distress.

2)  When these individuals haven't had the opportunity or resources to properly address and heal from their own emotional wounds, those unresolved emotions can fester and linger. These individuals might carry feelings of anger, resentment, fear, or sadness beneath the surface.

3)  These unhealed emotions can significantly impact a person's behavior and interactions with others. They might develop defense mechanisms, such as lashing out, being overly critical, or even being emotionally distant, as a way to protect themselves from further emotional pain.

4) Unfortunately, if these hurt individuals do not find healthy ways to cope with and heal from their own pain, they might inadvertently perpetuate the cycle by causing pain to others. Their hurt might lead them to behave in hurtful ways toward others, either consciously or unconsciously.

5)  Recognizing the phrase "Hurt people hurt people" emphasizes the importance of empathy and understanding. It encourages us to consider the underlying reasons for someone's hurtful behavior rather than simply reacting to the hurtful actions themselves. By understanding that hurt individuals might be acting out of their own pain, we can approach them with compassion and potentially break the cycle of hurt by offering support, kindness, and opportunities for healing.

Does this quote a sort of an excuse to just allow someone being abusive to us?

No, the phrase "Hurt people hurt people" is not intended to be an excuse for abusive behavior. While it provides insight into the cycle of emotional pain and how it can impact behavior, it does not justify or condone hurting others. It's important to draw a clear distinction between understanding the origins of certain behavior and excusing harmful actions.

While people who have experienced emotional pain may be more prone to acting out in hurtful ways, it's still their responsibility to seek help, healing, and personal growth in order to break the cycle of hurt. Understanding the phrase can help promote empathy and encourage a more compassionate response to individuals who exhibit hurtful behavior, but it does not absolve them of accountability for their actions.

Abusive behavior is never justified by a person's own past pain. Abuse is harmful, damaging, and unacceptable. If you or someone you know is experiencing or perpetrating abusive behavior, it's important to seek professional help, whether it's therapy, counseling, or support from relevant organizations that specialize in addressing abusive behavior.

Aside from that my own take is to pray for them. Dont be a victim of abuse, you can have just empathy but dont be a victim. Help them to grow and encourage more healthy relationship.  

God bless everyone. 

kadjo

My friend is about to go a major operation on his head for the accident related injury he suffers for quite some time. He looks skinny now because he lacks appetite anymore for eating. The operation schedule is about to happen on Thursday, 02 June 2022. I am a bit scared as this is a major surgery.  He still cracks some jokes though and he is still lively today. He goes earlier for a break as he already asked permission to his bosses. I'm praying for the success of the operation. 

Upon reflection on that, myself cannot crack a joke if that happens to me. I will be sad, or it might be I'm afraid that the only option if failure happens is I'm going forever. I dont see that feeling of being afraid when he was cracking a joke earlier, or its just maybe a defense mechanism that he is manifesting.  It might be just me or my belief that most of us are afraid of letting go and saying goodbye forever to our love ones. There might be some of the regrets and disappointments that we feel and need to be resolved before waving a final. 

But I think thats life,  and I think I have just to accept that whenever things or events wont go as I expected them to happen, only the Maker knows what is the best. Let Him be the final decider of what might happend and as long as I did all my best on my side, I still have my prayer on the hope that all things will still go for the best of everyone. 

A years before same month today, with my father we were scheduled for a blood transfusion as the Doc told me that my father really needs it as his blood is a bit dirty and might endanger my father. I've left my father on the receiving area as I have to pay first on the hospital cashier before we were going to be admitted. When I return the attending nurses on the receiving area told me why I left my father over there as he has a difficulty of urinating, and that left a messy receiving area as my father hardly find a place to pee. I pity on that event but I explained I still have to pay over the counter.  

While waiting for my father to be transferred to the room alloted for him, I explained to my father that those people I know that acting like him, having difficulty and having a muscle swelling like he was experiencing that time, are in really great danger and have there time were already being counted for.  One of the guy I know suffers only a week. I know its difficult for me to say this but I need my father to know what he is facing at that time. 

Its just been lucky for my family that my father overcome almost the weeks of having him and we still celebrated his 83th birthday last September 26, 2021. Sadly he passed away on 3 Nov 2021  

Saying goodbye is really difficult and heart breaking for us. But we need to face it as that is the reality. 

My friend who is about to have a surgery is still on the positive side though and I am praying for the success of his operation.  God bless everyone. 

kadjo

30th day of May. Last day of the month of May 2022. 

I'm almost through with my task on this project on this Bank. I have been waiting here, sitting occasionaly doing some task to fixed those complaints by the auditor that evaluates the software I've built. Sitting here in the cubicle with occasional yawn, I think I am really not fit for the cubicle job. I have observed it way back 2013 in Malaysia where I have sit and do and wait for the end of day bell or indicate that the working hour of my day have ended. 

I like to work but not on the cubicle. For almost 15 years of working as telecommuter, "work-from-home" they say, I always prefer working at home. At home you can decide which food to cook, which vegetable to mix and what time will you be stopping and resting for work. That was what they are doing when we were in quarantine period, way back 2020 when the pandemic started. I have been doing that for the past 13 years and still up to this day. 

One of my colleague before decided to build our own company and got some project. When the project go sideways and goes down unexpectedly I was the one left to pick up the pieces and finish the contract for this project. I pity myself that I was the one handling this but God knows how much I sacrifice to have this finished. I am not perfect worker or programmer but I dont backdown, and left my commitments and responsibility. I will finish what I have started always. 

To this day, though there is already a demand letter regarding this job for me to finish. I believe that this will be done sooner. 

God bless and please do pray for me.